Wednesday, November 19, 2008
A Shout-Out for Single Moms
This week I've had a taste of playing at single motherhood for two days, and I can tell you it is not a job I'd want. All I've done is chase the clock.
I've been keeping my six-year-old niece overnight and seeing her to school in the mornings. Her dad picks her up from school, then I get her again after work. First day I had her, school was delayed 2 hours for black ice. I had to take her to work with me for half an hour until her mom got off the night shift. I'm glad I have a flexible job where it worked out okay, but many mothers would not have that. I'm also very lucky because my mother lives with me and helped with breakfasts and hair styling.
I just can't figure out how full-time working mothers get much of anything done between driving to and from school, homework (six-year-olds shouldn't have to have homework!), meals, essential daily home chores (like thaw out chickens' water), bath time, and more.
I've tried to encourage my niece to do some things for herself. Last night during bath I told her a seven-year-old should be able to wash herself. She replied, "I can't because I'm only six!" LOL at my oops.
The all important question for this romance editor is when would a single mom have time to even think about romance? Romance takes work, lots of work--especially when she is deciding whether or not to allow a new man into her children's home life. How do they do it all?
It is no wonder there are many stories of widows years ago who had to break up their homes and give children away to family and friends in order to survive. Our lifestyles are easy compared to even 50 years ago.
I'm sure I won't look at a working-single-mom fiction heroine the same way again. I can see where researching this type of individual would be very important for the author to make the character and her romance issues believable.
What research adventures have you had in trying to get your characterization right?
Editor Du Jour Becky